Here, read this article about something Divergent gets so so right.  [it discusses rape and rape culture so you have been warned].  [also there are some story spoilers if you care about that]

The article pretty much covers it all.  I pray for more and more stories that show women that they have the right to be respected and listened to and that show strong, likable, admirable men who respect women. Stories that show boys that doing so is what makes them manly, not the reverse.
I am a feminist because I believe that men are capable of better than what our culture tells them they are, and I appreciate Divergent so much because of that.